My, how time flies. It seems just like yesterday that I was a 10 year old kid, going for bike rides in Sardis Woods. Time was spent playing outside and daydreaming about boys in Teen Bop magazine. Summers were spent on the beach with no care about what was poking in or out of my bathing suit. Those were all good times and my only dread was finding out that we were having something gross for dinner.
Then one day it dawns on you that you’ve made quite a few mistakes over the course of your life, only now you’re wise enough to label them as “experience” instead of “mistakes”. Whether your mother sits you and your sister down for an EE (educational experience) on an article she read regarding an uptick in deviant teenage behavior or you find out on your own in 8th grade that sneaking out at 1am with your best friend will lead to you being grounded – you learn. Hopefully. This weight loss journey thus far has let me to reflect on a lot of the lessons I should have learned a lot sooner in life. And with that I present you with another list of…
The 40 Things I Wish I Had Known When I Was Younger:
- Don’t do anything to lose weight you can’t continue for life; the weight will just come back and HUNT YOU DOWN!
- Food isn’t a best friend, soother, lover or caretaker. It’s just food. Energy. Fuel.
- If berating myself really worked, I’d be thin as a Pixie stick. It didn’t. I wasn’t. Stop it.
- What other people might think of me is none of my business.
- Fat-free is not the answer. Snackwells will expand your @ss.
- Self-esteem is an inside job.
- Don’t let high school PE classes sour you on physical activity. Exercise is AWESOME. Those tacky gym suits are not.
- Eat whole, real, identifiable food. If you can’t pronounce it, don’t eat it.
- When you find yourself in a hole, put down the shovel.
- You are enough. Just as you are. Today. Treat yourself like it.
- Prioritize your spending. A good pair of athletic shoes that you use will make you look better longer than a Brazilian blow-out.
- To thine own self be true. No one else will ever care about you as much as you do.
- Be charitable. There is always something you can give away – be it your dollars or your time.
- Be present in your own life. This is it. Now. Don’t wish it away.
- Don’t lose weight to get attention or please someone else. The only person involved in weight loss is you. (And anyone who treats you differently because you’ve lost weight isn’t worth your time.)
- There is life after high school/college. Don’t let those successes or failures determine the course of your life. Don’t rest on your laurels nor wallow in your failures.
- Even if it is all screwed up now, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.
- Never cosign. Ever.
- In consciously seeking healthy foods we like (or better yet love) to fulfill our real hunger, we’ve chosen to create opportunities versus destroy abilities.
- Learn boundaries – your own and others.
- Hard times, bad situations and bad moods will ALWAYS pass. ALWAYS.
- Drinking alcohol can be lots of fun, but hangovers really, really, really suck.
- Crying is a sign of strength, not weakness.
- Love is sometimes neither kind, nor patient, and especially not gentle. Love hurts. There is no getting around it.
- Disappointments are very often blessings in disguise.
- What people remember about you most is how you made them feel.
- You only have one family. Yes they are yours and they are not going away. Get used to it.
- Champagne, vodka, gin and beer don’t mix well.
- If he’s not ever calling before 11 p.m., he’s not interested in a real relationship.
- If you don’t have the money to pay cash for it, don’t buy it.
- Box dye jobs look like box dye jobs (especially if you’re going for blonde).
- Eyebrows really don’t grow back if they’re overly tweezed.
- Nude underwear is really the only acceptable color to wear under white pants.
- This moment — however good or bad it is — will be just a blip on the radar two years from now.
- A teaspoon is not the same thing as a tablespoon.
- Buying it one size too small won’t make you lose weight any faster.
- Learn to appreciate the contrast in life. If every day was Saturday and I could eat chocolate cake and pizza for every meal, wouldn’t that lose its appeal after a while?
- Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
- Being fat doesn’t mean you’re defective, broken or damaged. It just means you haven’t learned how to take care of yourself yet.
- What matters is not where you start but where you finish.
Making more and more progress! Being forced to eat differently because of my celiac disease is definite doing wonders for my waistline – and my bad habits.
I’ve got things under control at home but out and about is a different story. Went to a wedding this past weekend, and I got angry. Soooo angry! All around me were plates of mac & cheese, rolls, chicken fingers and stuffed mushrooms. People were laughing over beers and cake pops. I was banned to the raw vegetable tray while sipping wine. Yes, I do feel much better so it’s definitely for the best. As my first event since diagnosis, it was hard. I was sad. I was pissed off. Yes there were tears shed. I didn’t have a chance to prepare ahead of time and research each and every ingredient before I got there. I felt like I was on a float in the middle of the ocean…Overwhelmed. My world was spinning.
I shouldn’t let food have this effect on me. And in actuality, it’s not all about the food. I’m in mourning. I’m mourning the care-free attitude I can now have at events. I can’t just go and toast with friends over fondue or throw back a beer at a football game over Bojangle’s chicken. I know I can make “arrangements”. But I don’t want to make arrangements…I want to just go and not worry about it. Those days are gone…and while I’m making it work, it isn’t without grief.
Nonetheless, I’m still feeling better than ever. Even my joint pain has disappeared! This has solved a lot of problems I’ve been suffering from for years. At the end of the day, this may not be an easy road, but it sure will be worth it!
Until next time…
“The years teach much which the days never knew.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson